When ignorance about breastfeeding coincides with an irrational fear of terrorists, what do you get?
A very nasty scene at a ritzy New York Country Club, that’s what!
This is exactly what Belgian diplomat Tom Neijens and his wife Roseline Remans discovered when they stopped by the Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York on June 8, 2013 and inquired about having lunch.
Club employees permitted the family to dine on the terrace despite the fact that they weren’t members, whereupon Remans began to discreetly breastfeed her daughter Luka at the table.
Neijens, first secretary of the Belgium Mission to the UN, told the New York Post that a female employee of the club quickly interrupted Roseline’s perfectly legal and proper feeding of her baby with this sharp rebuke:
“Please leave immediately, you are disturbing the members!”
When Neijens protested and said it would only take a few minutes, the female staffer insisted that Remans finish in the restroom.
Understandably incredulous at the blatant ignorance on display at such a high end establishment, Mr. Neijens inquired why a baby would be asked to have lunch in the restroom when adults are not.
The Greenburgh Police Department arrived minutes later with Detective Scott Harding apparently yelling, “Close the doors!” with two other diners ordered to leave the terrace.
Mr. Neijens described the chaotic scene as something straight out of a Western movie with the officer walking around like John Wayne with “one hand on his gun, one hand on his Taser.”
The officer warned the couple that they were trespassing despite the fact that country club staff had given them specific permission to dine. He also said that some fearful members thought Mr. Neijens’ black backpack indicated they were terrorists.
Most laughable if not actually true, is what the officer came out with next when a tearful Ms. Remans asked why terrorists would breastfeed at a ritzy club:
“In Sri Lanka, babies are used by terrorists.”
Well, you learn something new every day, don’t you?
Attention all breastfeeding mothers. Your milk engorged breasts are actually considered weapons of mass destruction by law enforcement authorities. That liquid is NOT food for your baby. It is actually highly explosive material that could detonate at any time, sparking a chain of events identified by the media as bona fide terrorist activity.
Detective Harding quickly backed off his ridiculous posturing when Mr. Neijens revealed his State Department issued identification.
He dismissed his over the top behavior by explaining that the club had received terrorist threats in the past.
Despite the fact that they were doing nothing illegal or improper and possessed proper identification, the couple was still escorted off the premises via the back door.
A few days later, Mr Neijens sent an e-mail demanding an apology from Country Club general manager Tracy Fraus and assistant general manager Audra Vaccari.
“I am deeply worried about your staff if they cannot distinguish between a European couple looking for a quiet place to breast-feed a baby and suicide terrorists carrying a backpack.”
Lt. B.J. Ryan, a spokesman for the Greenburgh Police Department, labeled the incident as a simple “cultural misunderstanding.”
Ahem. On behalf of breastfeeding mothers everywhere, I beg to differ.
Breasts are not “cultural” and there is no “misunderstanding” their true purpose. They are the universal instrument for optimal feeding of babies.
Not “boob grenades”.
Hard to believe the terrorism handbook didn’t cover this point properly.
Sarah, The Healthy Home Economist
Sources:
Belgian diplomat booted from golf club, treated “like terrorists” over wife’s breastfeeding
Couple “treated like terrorists” over breastfeeding and backpack at ritzy restaurant
Jennifer @ Sweet Plantains
I actually get a little nervous breastfeeding out in public, which I have to do all the time, because you hear stories…but I actually felt silly for feeling that way, until reading this!
People are absolutely, unbelievably, irrational! Our culture is so upside down. Ugh!
Rosana Costa Stoessel via Facebook
Well, it is NY. I don’t expect anything less.
Helena Westby via Facebook
Looking at this, thinking about the teacher that got fired for teaching his class about oldfashioned agriculture, the more reasent one about the man that got treathened with fines and imprisonment for planting flowers, etc …
Did “Common Sense” take off for some much needed holidays at the far side of the galaxy ? Hnnn … o.O
Rosana
Praise God my parents left NY when I was 5 years old.
Coral Mings via Facebook
It’s like I’ve said many times–common sense isn’t very common any more! Who trains these people? Let an Israeli team come in and teach them for one week–I’m confident that’s all it would take–and they would know what to do and what NOT to do. People!
JImbob
Because Israel totally does the right thing all the time >.>
Ella
HAHA IKR!?
Yasmin
Spot on.
Lana Long via Facebook
The amazing amount of stupidity!
Yasuko Hirata via Facebook
Wow! I feel so embarrassed for our country! We look so ignorant!
jwhitehawke
Today’s America: egotistical, goody-goody, holier-than-thou, hypocritical, ‘We’ have been insulated from the ‘real world’ for so long we don’t even know what is basic or natural.
Angela R Sago via Facebook
and they shouldn’t look at a nursing baby anyway, no one likes to be stared at when they’re eating. 😉
Betty Inarkansas via Facebook
I feel ur oo bad for the couple. An example of insanity and yes, the lack of common sense in our country!!!
Linda Nash McNary via Facebook
idiots