When ignorance about breastfeeding coincides with an irrational fear of terrorists, what do you get?
A very nasty scene at a ritzy New York Country Club, that’s what!
This is exactly what Belgian diplomat Tom Neijens and his wife Roseline Remans discovered when they stopped by the Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York on June 8, 2013 and inquired about having lunch.
Club employees permitted the family to dine on the terrace despite the fact that they weren’t members, whereupon Remans began to discreetly breastfeed her daughter Luka at the table.
Neijens, first secretary of the Belgium Mission to the UN, told the New York Post that a female employee of the club quickly interrupted Roseline’s perfectly legal and proper feeding of her baby with this sharp rebuke:
“Please leave immediately, you are disturbing the members!”
When Neijens protested and said it would only take a few minutes, the female staffer insisted that Remans finish in the restroom.
Understandably incredulous at the blatant ignorance on display at such a high end establishment, Mr. Neijens inquired why a baby would be asked to have lunch in the restroom when adults are not.
The Greenburgh Police Department arrived minutes later with Detective Scott Harding apparently yelling, “Close the doors!” with two other diners ordered to leave the terrace.
Mr. Neijens described the chaotic scene as something straight out of a Western movie with the officer walking around like John Wayne with “one hand on his gun, one hand on his Taser.”
The officer warned the couple that they were trespassing despite the fact that country club staff had given them specific permission to dine. He also said that some fearful members thought Mr. Neijens’ black backpack indicated they were terrorists.
Most laughable if not actually true, is what the officer came out with next when a tearful Ms. Remans asked why terrorists would breastfeed at a ritzy club:
“In Sri Lanka, babies are used by terrorists.”
Well, you learn something new every day, don’t you?
Attention all breastfeeding mothers. Your milk engorged breasts are actually considered weapons of mass destruction by law enforcement authorities. That liquid is NOT food for your baby. It is actually highly explosive material that could detonate at any time, sparking a chain of events identified by the media as bona fide terrorist activity.
Detective Harding quickly backed off his ridiculous posturing when Mr. Neijens revealed his State Department issued identification.
He dismissed his over the top behavior by explaining that the club had received terrorist threats in the past.
Despite the fact that they were doing nothing illegal or improper and possessed proper identification, the couple was still escorted off the premises via the back door.
A few days later, Mr Neijens sent an e-mail demanding an apology from Country Club general manager Tracy Fraus and assistant general manager Audra Vaccari.
“I am deeply worried about your staff if they cannot distinguish between a European couple looking for a quiet place to breast-feed a baby and suicide terrorists carrying a backpack.”
Lt. B.J. Ryan, a spokesman for the Greenburgh Police Department, labeled the incident as a simple “cultural misunderstanding.”
Ahem. On behalf of breastfeeding mothers everywhere, I beg to differ.
Breasts are not “cultural” and there is no “misunderstanding” their true purpose. They are the universal instrument for optimal feeding of babies.
Not “boob grenades”.
Hard to believe the terrorism handbook didn’t cover this point properly.
Sarah, The Healthy Home Economist
Sources:
Belgian diplomat booted from golf club, treated “like terrorists” over wife’s breastfeeding
Couple “treated like terrorists” over breastfeeding and backpack at ritzy restaurant
Michelle Meredith Crespin via Facebook
Your Right it is UNBELIEVABLE how their is no common sense and CANT FIGURE OUT DISCRETION when Breastfeeding!!! It’s not that HARD…that’s the problem NO ONE cares about anybody else These Days it’s all about YOU!!!
Kay
??? Are you blaming the mother here? I’m confused by your comment. What part of the story indicates that she wasn’t discrete? The breast’s natural function is to provide nourishment for infants. I suppose she should let her baby go hungry and cry. THAT would be a lot more “discrete”. Wow, I can’t even begin to understand a mentality like yours. Thank God I don’t. It must be hard when you’re so concerned with what everyone else is doing. You must get angry a lot.
Kelly
I would certainly hope she wasn’t discrete. After all, we want nursing mothers to be part of the world around them, not separate, right? Now, if she was being *discreet*, then that’s fine if it’s what makes her more comfortable 🙂
Alexis
It sounds more like racial profiling to me.
Kay
They’re white Belgians. I don’t see how that’s racial profiling if they’re the same race as the people who are mistreating them. Unless, the people who run the country club are not white, it’s not a racial issue. It’s just a bunch of jerks who didn’t want non-members breastfeeding in their club.
Lyndsey Stark Stang via Facebook
Stop paying the media by watching their lies on tv and they will stop creating stories to make money and people will stop being so afraid of everything.
Maggie Goodman Russell via Facebook
we were at whole foods& we sat down in the commons area & had a lovely lunch….when we left My husband told me I had sat us down in the middle of 5 breast feeding Woman 😀
Lucy Deenin via Facebook
Woooow….I’m utterly speechless.
Kathy Pattison Garriott via Facebook
Nancy, well said!! I wish I could like your statement more than once!!
Crystal L. Little via Facebook
How stupid Americans can be when it comes to subjects such as this.
Melissa Sandstrom-Edri via Facebook
Me too danelle lol
Danelle Knapp Rohr via Facebook
I’m actually reading this while BF my daughter. I have fed her many times in restaurants and nobody even knows. I’m always covered up. Some people act like they are so against it but will go out in a shirt or bathing suit that shows more than a nursing mom shows. They need to stop looking if they dont like it.
Sara Reimold via Facebook
Wow crazy. People are really crazy.