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How to heal and avoid a D&C after a natural miscarriage tragically and unexpectedly occurs so that a hospital visit is not necessary.
I recently experienced a heartbreaking miscarriage. Instead of opting for a hospital visit and invasive D&C, I chose to have a natural miscarriage and let nature take its course at home.
D&C stands for ādilation and curettageā. It is a surgical technique where a doctor forcibly dilates the cervix and clears the uterine lining using an instrument called a curette.
A D&C is not a pleasant experience, to put it mildly! Avoiding it using natural methods is a highly desirable alternative.
Natural Miscarriage Story
I was almost 12 weeks along when I miscarried, so it was almost like a mini-birth. I was lucky that I have experienced a live, home birth when my daughter was born over two years ago. That, combined with past experiences with miscarriage, helped me to not be afraid of the process.
I was very thankful to do everything at home (as opposed to a birth centerĀ or hospital). The physical environment was an important part of my overall healing.
Unfortunately for me, after the worst had passed, I continued to bleed and have intermittent contractions. After two full weeks from the time that I passed the baby and placenta, I went back to my OB to get an ultrasound to see if I had retained some piece of the placenta.
I was also fighting a cold virus and showing symptoms of an internal infection in my uterus. My blood was beginning to have a foul odor to it.
The doctor confirmed that I had indeed retained some tissue. Later that day, at my family practice doctorās office, I had a vaginal exam and my blood drawn to be tested. My iron levels were great, but my white blood count was low indicating an infection was beginning to take root.
My family practice doctor is very natural minded and I respect him very much, so when he suggested I take antibiotics, I listened.
I hate taking antibiotics and try to avoid them as much as I can, but I felt like the antibiotics were the lesser of two evils when weighing the risks of a D&C. (1)
Looking back, if I had been in a better mindset (thinking right and not consumed with grief) I probably would have thought to pull out the natural remedies sooner to avoid having to take antibiotics. But only hindsight is 20/20, and hopefully, this post will help someone else in the same situation.
He gave me three days to pass the rest of the tissue on my own or I would have to go to the hospital.
I left his office thinking I may have āfailedā at this pregnancy, but I am sure not going to āfailā at having a natural miscarriage. I pulled out my type A, over-ambitious personality and got to work figuring out all the natural remedies that help complete a miscarriage.
Over a three-day period, I did many different remedies to help me expel the last of the tissue. And sure enough, it worked. I completed the miscarriage on my own and did not need a D&C.
Hallelujah!
Remedies and Therapies to Avoid D&C
Here are the remedies I tried to avoid a hospital D&C. The good news is, they worked!
They are listed below in no particular order.
- Tea with Dong Quai in it. I drank Traditional Medicine Womenās Moon Cycle tea. I also drank some plain organicĀ raspberry leaf teaĀ (I like this one)Ā which is a hugely beneficial herb for uterine health.
- Cinnamon. I couldnāt really find exactly the dosage to take, so I just sprinkled freshĀ cinnamon on everything I could. Note that whether it isĀ cassia or Ceylon cinnamon really doesnāt matter. The Womenās Moon Cycle tea also has some in it. It tastes great in a glass of raw milkĀ or on a piece of bread slathered with butter. If you want to be bad, sprinkle on some sugar and you are in for a treat. Itās also great with cumin on a roast in a slow cooker such as a clay pot.
- Acupuncture. My acupuncture doctor did an hour-long treatment to help me expel everything. You can do pressure points at home if you prefer. They are mostly all in your ankles and shins. There is one on your hand as well, the fleshy part in between your first finger and thumb. Basically, all those points that you stay away from when you are pregnant.Ā Stimulating them is good for expelling everything from the uterus as well as acupuncture for labor. I recommend just massaging the area and whenever you find a tender spot, rub the heck out of it, even if it hurts a bit.
- Cupping. She also did a technique called cupping. Cupping is known to release congestion and help things that are stuck, physically or energetically, unstick. (2)
- Energy healing. I had a session with an energy healer and I realized that part of the reason I was holding on to that last bit of tissue was an emotional reason. I emotionally was not ready to fully let go of the pregnancy and my body was reacting to my emotions by holding on to the last bit of tissue.
- Affirmations. After the energy healing session, I told my body over and over again to let go and release. I also repeated over and over again, āI am healed. I am healthy.ā
- Homeopathy. Both Sabina and Sepia are helpful for naturally completing a miscarriage. I did Sepia because not only does it help expel the tissue, it helps expel the grief. My homeopathic doctor warned me that it would make me want to curl up in a ball and cry, a lot, and not to be alarmed. I sort of brushed him off and then later that day, I went to a yoga class. Showing up late to said yoga class late, the only spot left was smack dab in the middle of the room, next to the instructor. Just my luck! And sure enough, it only took one sun salutation and there I was, the crazy person, silently sobbing in childās pose for the rest of the class. Super embarrassing. So if you take Sepia, stay home!
- Herbs. Black and Blue Cohosh. I had these on hand and was going to do this at the last moment. These herbs are so bad tasting that I really did not want to have to drink them. Luckily I didnāt have to. These are the same herbs you can help to induce a full-term pregnancy. They are like a natural version of the inducement drug Pitocin. Also, a friend told me that these herbs can be found homeopathically, and they are called Caulphyllum and Cimicifuga. Incidentally, herbs can be a great friend for natural birth control as well as enhancing fertility when you are ready to try again.
Itās been over a week now since my ādeadlineā and I stopped bleeding on that very day!
I have had no more pain or blood, which I am very, very happy about. With the physical process complete, I can finally start to move on emotionally.
I do hope that this helps anyone going through a miscarriage and looking for information about how to avoid a D&C. There is not very much online about it, and it is good to know that you can heal and complete it on your own without having to go to the hospital.
(1) D&C After a Miscarriage
(2) What is Cupping?
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Hi I’m 8 weeks pregnant and I want a natural miscarriage, a year ago I had a miscarriage and it was horrifying. I’m an Arab and a Muslim so being pregnant can stone me. In order to get a dr to miscarriage me I had to be in the dark with a spotline and a doctor pushing his tools in me while I had a towel in my mouth. I never could recover from that. Now I’m pregnant again and I want to do it at home. Can I get more tips ?
I have a two year old boy and his sister passed in April of last year, now I find that I am 6 weeks along and only just turning 17, do you have any remedies to my situation that are less costly but still natural?
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i had tryed all these remiedies that it says above why is nothing working? i tried from parsely to that tea to black cohosh to everything..what else can i do to have a miscarraige,im sorry to all yall that had them. but me personaly i dnt want a child nor bring one in, i was rape and didnt know i was pregnant so i dnt want a child that way…can some one help me plz. im bout 5 months and tryed everything
Tiffany,
I do not believe any of these remedies will induce a miscarriage if you have a healthy pregnancy. I am very sorry you were raped, but this far along in your pregnancy your best bet would be to consider other options, like putting the baby up for adoption. That said, this probably is not the place to air out the fact that you WANT to have a miscarriage… can’t you find some kind of rape crisis website for this? Not trying to be insensitive to your trauma, but I find your posting this here slightly appalling. Maybe Google a rape crisis hotline in your area…
Tiffany,
It sounds like you’re in a bit of a crisis… please feel free to email me if you would like to talk… [email protected]
Also, I want it to be done and over with, I wish they could have fit me in for the d and c Friday so that I didn’t have to go through a mini labor. If I had found out sooner I would have definitely opted for the suction d and c right away so that we can move forward and try again. For me there is no use in dwelling on a baby that obviously was not viable and not meant to be here. That might sound harsh and insensitive, but that is how I feel. I am certainly disappointed and saddened by this loss, but I want to focus on trying again, not what might have been.
I went for my first OB appt Thursday at 10 weeks and found that my baby had no heartbeat and had stopped growing at 6 weeks. Two days before my appt I had light spotting, but was told a little light brown blood was OK. It turns out my body was starting to m/c. My doc recommended the d and c and I wanted it… I am actually going to the hospital in the morning, but I don’t know if I will have to have the procedure as I believe I passed the baby Friday night. It was awful. Incredibly painful- reminiscent of labor pains and because of procedure tomorrow I could not take any NSAIDs for pain management. Part of me is glad that my body handled it naturally, but I do not think I would do it naturally again, it was just too painful and somewhat traumatic.
This girl think she prego I pray to god she is not and I’m not ready to be a dad so what should I do ladies please give me answers. Should I abort the child idk god help me.
I could ask you to imagine your father writing the same email. Your vote would surely be DON’T DO IT DAD!
There are many options that do not include abortion.
1 – Maybe she’s not pregnant. Wait and see before deciding further.
2 – If she is, she can give the baby up for adoption. Many families can’t have a baby and this would be a blessing to them.
3 – Maybe she wants to keep the baby, and as a father I can’t imaging life without my kids. It’s the best!
4 – There is nothing that says you have to kill the baby so you can have freedom. You could just take the coward’s way and leave. But then you would always wonder “What if?” Of course, abortion leaves you with the same question.
— Clint
John-
This is a moment of truth for you, and how you react to it will determine what kind of man you are. This is, quite literally, one of those moments in life that separates the men from the boys.
The important thing for you to remember is not to panic. And don’t take this out on your girlfriend. You both had a hand in creating this pregnancy- and you both have to deal with the consequences. She is going through a lot more physical trauma than you are right now, and just as much emotional upset. Your job is to be there for her, and be supportive to her.
You should calmly sit down, take a deep breath, and have a talk together about what you both want for the future. You are going to have to face this with courage and a sense of responsibility. She may agree with you that an abortion is the best route right now- in which case you should look together for a nearby Planned Parenthood. You should go with her to the appointments and give her a lot of emotional support as she makes this decision. DO NOT make this about your own insecurities. You can deal with them later. Right now, you should take care of her through this process- it is not an easy one.
If she chooses to have the baby- you are going to have to be a dad. That is not as terrible as it sounds. You will simply have to work together to find a way to make this work. This doesn’t mean you have to live together or get married or date for the rest of your lives… it doesn’t mean you can’t go to college or will never hang with your friends again. It simply means that you have to take part in your child’s life and contribute to raising him/her. A coward would run away. A child would throw a temper tantrum and blame his girlfriend for everything. A man would be compassionate, kind and bravely face and accept the consequences of the decisions he makes in life. If you choose the first two reactions, you will hate yourself later. If you chose to be a man, you can at least be proud of who you are and how you handled yourself. Your life doesn’t end because of fatherhood.. It just requires you to grow.
Picture the man you admire most in your life, and then ask yourself what he would do.
when is the best time to start the natural miscarriage? and do we have to do all the techniques?